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06:53am 29/01/2010
  Okay, so I've just made a new Live Journal account and joined this community not only a few minutes ago, so let me just quickly introduce myself. My name is Elizabeth (Liz for short), I'm seventeen and I live in Australia.

I am slowly coming to terms with my sexuality, which has been a very difficult process through my years, and even more difficult with each day that passes with the more certain I become with who I really am.

Now here's my problem; as of yet I have only come out to my older brother (who is also gay and my whole family is very accepting of him) and sister, one of her friends and just recently a friend of mine. After I told my friend that I thought I was gay, I instantly wanted to take it back and go hide in a corner somewhere. I felt like some horrendous thing had become unleashed and I could never take it back. I got this heavy feeling on my shoulders, and a sickening feeling in my stomach; it hasn't seemed to go away since.

My really big problem at the moment is that I hate that I'm gay, and I'm having great difficulty accepting myself for who I am. I feel completely alone, despite that my sister says things will change. I feel like the only person in a crowded room, to put it in a cliche sort of saying. Each day is harder to survive, especially since recently the girl who I've been in love with for three years (who I was certain is gay) mentioned that she could never ever be with another girl (which left me feeling more isolated and disgusted by myself then ever.)  I've always known that I'm different from everyone else for so long, and waited so many years to free myself of this guilt and shame.

What I want to know is a few things; how hard was it for the rest of you women to accept who you are and how long did it take until you felt comfortable in your own skin? When you first told one of your friends that you thought you were gay, did you experience this extreme regret like I do?

Thank you for anyone who reads this and helps me out, any advice is extremely appreciated, and I apologize for the massive essay. 
The Battle Goes To Middle America 
01:01pm 02/06/2009
  Meet In Middle In light of last week’s California Supreme Court decision to uphold Prop 8, one grassroots and netroots organization launched a new campaign to target “middle American” values in the middle of California, Fresno. The event, Meet in the Middle, took place Saturday, May 30th at the City Hall in Fresno.

The event was organized by Courage Campaign, a group promoting activism and has previously taken up causes such as delaying wage cuts to stare employees and voters’ rights. Their “Meet in the Middle” campaign, recognizing that the campaign for marriage equality has to be fought city by city across the country and not just in places like San Francisco and New York, is organizing an event in a town whose attitudes toward LGBT issues are similar to those of the nation at large. In towns like Fresno, Courage Campaign can target communities that have been neglected by the GLBT movement and engage and empower local gays and lesbians that haven’t relocated to progressive meccas.

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Sundays of Solidarity 
01:53pm 30/03/2009
  Between May 17 and June 28, 2009, groups of LGBT and allied people around the country will attend worship services at a church of their choice - a church that is not welcoming and affirming of openly LGBT members and guests. Each group will wear a lapel button that reads "gay? fine by me." For less formal churches we also have a t-shirt with this message. The lapel button (or t-shirt) serves as a conversation starter - opening dialogue with people in the church about faith, sexual orientation, and gender identity.

When that visible act of courage is paired with adequate training, then transforming hearts and minds becomes a bona fide possibility. That's why we've designed a three-part teleconference course and a resource webpage that covers the essentials of Nonviolent communication, Media talking points, and What both the Bible and science really say about homosexuality. Training teleconferences will be held on April 19, April 26, and May 3 at 4pm CST. To register for the trainings go to http://www.soulforce.org/moodle/login/index.php and enter your information.

We hope you will consider organizing a Sundays of Solidarity project in your area. It simply involves choosing a church in your area that could benefit from an SOS visit, using your contact list to recruit others to join you, attending the teleconference training sessions, and then organizing your group to take action on one of the Sundays between May 17 and June 28, 2009. To purchase a lapel button or t-shirt, please visit http://finebyme.org/sos.html.

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11:07am 19/01/2009


MAY 9 - 16, 2009






Depart BHM Saturday, May 9 at 3:30 p.m.
Arrives BHM Saturday, May 16 at 1 p.m.

If you are planning to drive to the West Coast Gathering and don't have a full car,
why not post a "Ride Offered" message along with your travel dates and your City.

If you need a ride, why not post a "Ride Needed" message, including your city and dates.

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Did Obama Team Play us On Bishop Robinson? 
01:21pm 19/01/2009
  During the inauguration kick off party at the Lincoln Memorial, openly gay Bishop Gene Robinson of the Diocese of NH gave the opening prayer.

The problem is it was not televised by HBO or NPR and there were 'technical difficulties' making it nearly impossible for the crowd of 500,000 to hear a word.

Demand to know why Bishop Robinson was part of the "pre-show" and therefore not taped.

More info and contact info at http://queersunited.blogspot.com/2009/01/did-obama-team-play-us-over-bishop.html
Diversity Lesson 101: LGBT/Queer Little People 
12:40pm 23/12/2008
  Little People like LGBT people are considered "freaks of nature", they get stares and people misunderstand them. In looking for resources for Little LGBT People, I found virtually nothing. I decided, to make an entry to educate people about little people as well as provide as much info as I can for LGBT Little People. It is my sincere hope that LGBT Little People can find solace, comfort and community and that they can begin to network and build a foundation and support system for their own sub-section of the community.

For more info and resources on LGBT Little People, check out:
Might the "Bradley Effect" Also Hold True for Queer Issues? 
12:25pm 23/10/2008
  Today's open forum is set to examine whether we may see something similar to the "Bradley effect" on queer issues in the upcoming election.
"The Bradley effect, less commonly called the Wilder effect, is a proposed explanation for observed discrepancies between voter opinion polls and election outcomes in some American political campaigns when a white candidate and a non-white candidate run against each other. Named for Tom Bradley, an African-American who lost the 1982 California governor's race despite being ahead in some voter polls, the Bradley effect refers to an alleged tendency on the part of some voters to tell pollsters that they are undecided or likely to vote for a black candidate, and yet, on election day, vote for his/her white opponent." (Wikipedia)
The "Bradley Effect" was a shocking dose of reality about the inconsistency of polls to determine how truthful people are about their voting decisions. It also went on to show the racial implications of the governor's race.

While it is now 26 years later, the notion of a "Bradley Effect" has resurfaced because Barack Obama, a bi-racial candidate is running for president of the United States of America. It is interesting to ponder whether people are indicating they will vote for the democratic ticket while in private will vote against it because of the racial implications.

I also wonder whether this can be applied to certain LGBT issues up on the ballot this Nov. 4th. There are marriage amendments in California, Arizona, and Florida this year. There is also the question of a constitutional convention in Connecticut and a ban on adoption by unmarried co-habitating couples in Arkansas. All of these referendums hold major implications for Americans straight and gay.

People opposed to gay rights often argue that they "have gay friends" or are "not bigoted against gays." It has become increasingly unpopular to be associated with "homophobia." Is it possible there is a segment of the population that claims they will vote against these marriage amendments and in favor of LGBT rights while secretly espousing another point of view to hide their own fear of being labeled a bigot?

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John McCain's Chief of Staff Being Outed Today! 
01:57pm 22/09/2008
  Sources have confirmed to me that Mark Buse John McCain's chief of staff is being outed today! Stay tuned for more info!

Obama Pride - Video Collage 
05:06pm 20/07/2008
  Collage of videos demonstrating Obama's commitment to the Queer community!
11:49am 25/06/2008
mood: bouncy
Hi all!! =)

Logo, the LGBT network, is offering a lot of really great shows to rent!! There are sexy shows documentaries, comedies, sports films and a bunch more. I've already added a ton to my rental list. Just thought I would let you know because it is usually so hard to find LGBT movies and shows! Enjoy.

http://www.logoonline.com/netflix is where I found everything

<3 Fitz
Global Queer Rights - Take Action!!! 
10:35am 03/06/2008
  TAKE ACTION: Support LGBT Rights Worldwide!Collapse )  
06:40pm 20/05/2008
  Hi, I'm new here, so I thought I would say hi! I'm a 36 year old lesbian living in Hawai`i.  
Queer Liberationist or Gay Assimilationist? 
09:34am 19/05/2008
  There are two opposing political viewpoints when it comes to advocacy and than of course there are a variety of more moderate middleground opinions that fall in between the Queer Liberationists and Gay Assimilationist camps.

Gay Assimilationists - This ideology is to make gay/lesbian people seem like average, normal everyday citizens in the eyes of the general public. They want to make the case that gay families deserve equal rights and recognition and they want what everyone else wants: a house with a white picket fence and 2.5 kids. Some Gay Assimilationists are not inclusive of Bisexuals or Transgender people because they feel these groups hurt the gay rights movement. This is not the case for all Assimilationists and many seek to include all LGBT people and create a sense of assimilation into the general society. Gay Assimilationists often seek to advance their agenda through corporate sponsorships and see getting big business and government on their side as a way to advance equality. The assimilationists strive to paint the LGBT community as being no different than the heterosexual world and just want to fit in. They want the rights to marriage, the rights to adoption, to serve freely and openly in the military. Part of achieving these means, Gay Assimilationists seek to tone down the sexual aspect of gay pride, they feel that sexuality is one component of gay relationships and seek to emphasize much more the loving, financial, community, and faith based aspects of LGBT relationships.

Queer Liberationists - This camp of political theory views gender and sexuality in non-conformist ways. They do not apologize for the differences of Queer individuals and do not seek to "fit in". They embrace the idea of "We're Here, We're Queer, Get Used to it!" and believe society must change to accept them rather than they change to mold into hetero-normative society. Queer Liberationists are often but not always concerned with Queer issues as they relate not only to LGBT people but also to capitalism, anti-militarism, sexism, racism and other aspects of social justice. They are less concerned with same-sex marriage, adoption, and don't ask don't tell. Many times but not always they are against the institution of marriage altogether, feel gays are liberated from the idea of raising kids, and are against gays serving in the military because they are anti-military to begin with. Queer Liberationists often disagree with the idea of corporate partnerships and having big business and government intervene in LGBT issues. Queer Liberationists do not seek to hide their sexuality and gender expression, they seek to embrace it and encourage what has conventionally been frowned upon as inappropriate.

These are two diametrically opposed political camps. Most people have various opinions that don't fall so heavily into one party or the other. Where do you lie and what are your thoughts?

Free Speech Where do We Draw the Line? 
09:39am 13/05/2008
  A few interesting and controversial headlines have popped up in the news and the gay blogosphere that raise some important questions. At what point is gay activism intruding upon free speech and freedom of expression rights? Freedom of speech and expression must be protected even for anti-gay forces, because if we don't have these basic freedoms it becomes a slippery slope and eventually we will not have the right to express our opinions.

I write this in light of some stories recently, such as a student who wore a t-shirt to school saying "Be Happy - Not Gay!" at a diversity event, who got in trouble. The courts have since ruled she is entitled to wear the shirt.

What about Crystal Dixon's case with the University of Toledo V.P. of Human Resources who outside the university wrote an opinion column denouncing homosexuality, claiming it is a choice. She has been fired under grounds that she mentioned she was a worker at the school and is now suing the school.

Finally there was the case at Smith College, where the College Republicans brought in Ryan Sorba who created a book called "The Born Gay Hoax" who spoke about bogus research regarding LGBT people. Students interrupted his anti-gay speech by screaming "We're Here, We're Queer, get used to it" the student protesters overwhelmed the room forcing Mr. Sorba to leave the campus and cancel his speech.

Youtube clip of the Smith protest:

What do you think about GLBT activism and where do we draw the line to ensure free speech rights, or is it okay to intrude upon the free speech of others when they seek to intrude on our civil liberties and spread falsehoods about our community?

Introducing Queers United 
11:05am 06/05/2008
  The activist blog with action alerts for the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Asexual, and Intersexual community!

[USA] Invitation - Academic Survey (LGBTQ) 
02:28am 06/12/2007
  My partner and I are conducting a national LGBTQ survey and will be presenting the results at a political science conference in New Orleans this January. I was hoping that you would consider filling it out and then passing it along to any friends/family/acquaintances who also identify as LGBTQ and/or posting it to your bulletin.

Thanks in advance!

Details below.......

You are invited to participate in an academic study examining the social and political attitudes and behaviors of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) individuals. As not much is known about the LGBTQ population in the United States, it is important to capture attitudes and behaviors in order to determine if there is indeed a distinctive culture that has the ability to wield social and political influence. Unfortunately, past studies have been geared on the attitudes towards this group, and not actually of the LGBTQ population. Because there has been very little research done in this area, your participation is incredibly important.

After you have completed the survey, we strongly encourage you to forward this survey to your friends, family, and acquaintances that also identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer.

The survey takes approximately 10 minutes to complete.


Or paste this entire link into your Internet browser:


The researchers conducting this study are a graduate student of political science at California State University, Chico and a doctoral student of political science at the University of New Orleans.

The survey is conducted online with tools in place to ensure that your answers are completely anonymous. Your identity will not be disclosed to anyone, including the researchers. Your participation is completely voluntary and you may skip any questions that may cause you emotional distress, or end the survey at any time by simply clicking on the End Survey link. There is no material benefit for participating in this survey.

Please feel free to conduct the researchers with any questions or concerns you may have regarding this survey.

Anna R. Ball
MA Candidate, Political Science
California State University , Chico

Robynn M. Kuhlmann, MA
PhD Student, Political Science
University of New Orleans

03:54am 05/12/2007
  If gay and lesbian people are given civil rights, then everyone will want them! ~Author unknown, as seen on a button at evolvefish.com

03:42pm 08/02/2007
  Hey everyone!!

I'm 28 years old and live in the UK. I'm neither butch nor femme,I enjoy reading,music,hiking,gym,swimming,movies,tv,internet,animals,cooking,daydreaming,making friends etc etc. Joined LJ in the hope of making friends with other people who share similar interests. I'm not really into pubs and clubs...anyone else out there feel the same?
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05:38pm 10/11/2006
  hey are there any girls in here from southern california?  
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05:54pm 21/10/2006
I'm Charlie.
I am a 24-year old feminine lesbian who is romantically attracted to feminine, intelligent, athletic, open-minded lesbian/bisexual females with similar interests.
I'm a college-educated, straight-edge, submissive, open-minded, romantic individual with no piercings or tattoos.
I just relocated to NH for a career in engineering. In the past, I've done some amatuer modeling on the side as well. I've been told that I'm a great kisser.
I enjoy hacky sack, martial arts, watching TV (LOST, the daily show, House), walking in the moonlight, cuddling and talking/connecting with someone special.
I'm mainly looking to make friends at the present time.

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